Comments on: Piggy in the IVF middle http://www.lifeslurper.com/http:/www.lifeslurper.com/2008/09/14/piggy-in-the-ivf-middle/ In fertility clinics no one can hear you scream Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:24:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Trish http://www.lifeslurper.com/http:/www.lifeslurper.com/2008/09/14/piggy-in-the-ivf-middle/comment-page-1/#comment-290 Trish Tue, 30 Sep 2008 22:53:03 +0000 http://www.lifeslurper.com/?p=546#comment-290 ART is so complicated ... I know so many women who are accused of infertility on the basis of weight but just as many average weight ones are in the same boat. God if only it were this simple. I wasn't overweight ... I was infertile and they didn't know why I couldn't get pregnant for 12 years. It is amazing how far we will go to try anything...at whatever cost. Keep blogging I just found you and I am interested. ART is so complicated … I know so many women who are accused of infertility on the basis of weight but just as many average weight ones are in the same boat.

God if only it were this simple.
I wasn’t overweight … I was infertile and they didn’t know why I couldn’t get pregnant for 12 years.

It is amazing how far we will go to try anything…at whatever cost.
Keep blogging I just found you and I am interested.

]]> By: DinoD http://www.lifeslurper.com/http:/www.lifeslurper.com/2008/09/14/piggy-in-the-ivf-middle/comment-page-1/#comment-263 DinoD Sun, 14 Sep 2008 22:25:49 +0000 http://www.lifeslurper.com/?p=546#comment-263 I didn't blog back when I was going through IVF but I do remember the feeling of panic. I had my first cycle when I was 40 and my fourth and last cycle when I was 41. I then went through about 3 years of trying to wrap my mind around never overcoming secondary infertility. So I do understand the relentless progression of the clock but I wish I could make you be a little easier on yourself. IVF is a science but an inexact and unforgiving one. No matter what you do, you *COULD* be successful or you *MIGHT* not be successful and there is error surrounding you in every decision and every option. You might not feel there is any room for error but it is inherent and pervasive in ART. Maybe you will make decisions and not end up where you want to be but my lord we all know that if it was obvious what to do, you'd do it. I also agree with what Shelby said about excess weight. I do like reading your posts Lifeslurper (and I don't follow many blogs anymore). I wish I had a crystal ball for you but life just isn't that easy, is it? (I know, I know, easy is one thing... but does it have to be so damn hard?) DinoD I didn’t blog back when I was going through IVF but I do remember the feeling of panic. I had my first cycle when I was 40 and my fourth and last cycle when I was 41. I then went through about 3 years of trying to wrap my mind around never overcoming secondary infertility. So I do understand the relentless progression of the clock but I wish I could make you be a little easier on yourself.

IVF is a science but an inexact and unforgiving one. No matter what you do, you *COULD* be successful or you *MIGHT* not be successful and there is error surrounding you in every decision and every option. You might not feel there is any room for error but it is inherent and pervasive in ART. Maybe you will make decisions and not end up where you want to be but my lord we all know that if it was obvious what to do, you’d do it.

I also agree with what Shelby said about excess weight.

I do like reading your posts Lifeslurper (and I don’t follow many blogs anymore). I wish I had a crystal ball for you but life just isn’t that easy, is it? (I know, I know, easy is one thing… but does it have to be so damn hard?)

DinoD

]]> By: Shelby http://www.lifeslurper.com/http:/www.lifeslurper.com/2008/09/14/piggy-in-the-ivf-middle/comment-page-1/#comment-262 Shelby Sun, 14 Sep 2008 16:45:04 +0000 http://www.lifeslurper.com/?p=546#comment-262 It is rather confusing how many elements go into fertility. Tending to each and every one of them can make one's head spin! I don't doubt that weight is correlated to fertility to a certain degree (I saw it in my lab work after I lost weight), but I'm not certain that losing weight can actually restore fertility, possibly just enhance it. However, it's so easy in this IF game to blame ourselves (maybe I had too much caffeine, or maybe I needed to lose more weight). Don't get trapped in the blame game. I truly doubt that any treatment failures can solely be attributed to weight, otherwise your doctors would have made it a much bigger issue. I looked at weight loss as a gift to myself and after all that IF has taken from you, it'll be a good time to get a gift! Good luck! It's a tough task, but then again you're not a stranger to challenge. :) It is rather confusing how many elements go into fertility. Tending to each and every one of them can make one’s head spin! I don’t doubt that weight is correlated to fertility to a certain degree (I saw it in my lab work after I lost weight), but I’m not certain that losing weight can actually restore fertility, possibly just enhance it. However, it’s so easy in this IF game to blame ourselves (maybe I had too much caffeine, or maybe I needed to lose more weight). Don’t get trapped in the blame game. I truly doubt that any treatment failures can solely be attributed to weight, otherwise your doctors would have made it a much bigger issue. I looked at weight loss as a gift to myself and after all that IF has taken from you, it’ll be a good time to get a gift! Good luck! It’s a tough task, but then again you’re not a stranger to challenge. :)

]]> By: T2 http://www.lifeslurper.com/http:/www.lifeslurper.com/2008/09/14/piggy-in-the-ivf-middle/comment-page-1/#comment-261 T2 Sun, 14 Sep 2008 11:03:01 +0000 http://www.lifeslurper.com/?p=546#comment-261 Cripes. Don't stop blogging. I'm kinda counting on it as one of my main distractions during my 2WW!!! (Hope you at least got a small smile, if not a laugh from the above.) Good on you with the weight loss programme. It'll be good for your life in general. Afraid I've got no answers on the fertility side. BTW - I agree with you about comments such as stay positive and you're doing all you can as not being that helpful. Sometimes I find a good wallow in my misery actually makes me feel better. If that works for you - wallow away! Something else that I found helpful was to also put in place a picture of what my life would look like if the baby plan didn't work out. While this was confronting as hell, once I had that picture it made life easier. Doing that is not for everyone though, and completely understand if it's not something that you find helpful. I've posted before re: the overseas thing, so I'm guessing that's not for you either. Anyway, just wanted to say hello. I've been missing your blog. PS I know you're probably busy being miserable and everything at the moment, but do you think you could find time to bring back the teddy?? PPS Please take care. PPPS If it would cheer you up I would even do the guest blog thing for you. Only 'cos times seem tough for you, you understand. Cripes. Don’t stop blogging. I’m kinda counting on it as one of my main distractions during my 2WW!!!

(Hope you at least got a small smile, if not a laugh from the above.)

Good on you with the weight loss programme. It’ll be good for your life in general. Afraid I’ve got no answers on the fertility side.

BTW – I agree with you about comments such as stay positive and you’re doing all you can as not being that helpful. Sometimes I find a good wallow in my misery actually makes me feel better. If that works for you – wallow away! Something else that I found helpful was to also put in place a picture of what my life would look like if the baby plan didn’t work out. While this was confronting as hell, once I had that picture it made life easier. Doing that is not for everyone though, and completely understand if it’s not something that you find helpful.

I’ve posted before re: the overseas thing, so I’m guessing that’s not for you either.

Anyway, just wanted to say hello. I’ve been missing your blog.

PS I know you’re probably busy being miserable and everything at the moment, but do you think you could find time to bring back the teddy??

PPS Please take care.

PPPS If it would cheer you up I would even do the guest blog thing for you. Only ‘cos times seem tough for you, you understand.

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